From a young age we are taught to find our own path in life. This is synonymous with “be yourself” or “be unique”. It centralizes around the idea that we should pursue our passions instead of trying to impress others. Another commonly used phrase is “do what you love and those who should be in your life will be”.
It’s wonderful to do what you love. We should focus on being passionate as much as we can. Growing up and hearing all of this made me focus on following my passions. Photography, writing, YouTubing, reading, and many other skills I have today are a result of doing what I love. However, I wonder if I focused too much on doing what I love and not enough on relationships with others.
Sometimes when we pursue our passions we neglect others. If they don’t support, cultivate, or interact with what we’re passionate about, then what use is the friendship? That was a thought I had for a very long time. I don’t think the right people always stumble into your life or that the people who are meant to be in your life will be. Sometimes you have to pursue and cultivate friendship.
You can certainly have spontaneous friendship but I think there’s a level where we have to say “this friendship is worth having”. It sounds odd but sometimes I have difficulty just relaxing with friends because I feel like I should be doing something more constructive. I can’t sit around and play video games all night because I could be doing better things.
Life isn’t about have the most skill or being the best.I think a lot of it is our interactions with other people. Pursuing your interests can get in the way of your relationships with others. You can work too hard and you can waste time learning useless skills. Sometimes the best thing to do is nothing. Go sit with a group of friends and do nothing that is constructive. Go watch a movie, lounge around all day, or go for a long walk.
Enjoy yourself. Always remember to enjoy. Focus on growth but don’t let it give you tunnel vision. Sometimes growth has to occur through meeting new people or doing nothing. You have to rest eventually. You can’t always be doing, sometimes you have to just be.