How we respond to rejection and we recover from failure determines how we live our life. Everyone faces rejection from their peers, society, culture, friends, family, and love interests. It’s undeniable that everyone at some point in their life has failed miserably at something. We all struggle with coming up short and doing things horribly wrong the first time. How we overcome this defines how far we will go in life.
Recently I was talking with a man who was caught up in romantic rejection. It seemed to him that every person he met rejected him immediately and this deterred him from trying to meet with others. So not only was he being rejected but he was rejecting potential opportunities to try again.
Many of us get rejected romantically and move on from it. A person says “no” to a date or a person stops replying to your text messages and we move on. The astounding part is that we all experience somewhere around the same amount of rejection.
By accepting a failure and continuing on, we make progress towards moments when we aren’t rejected. When we accept a failure and continue moving towards our goals, we have already succeeded.
So what I want you to take away from this is that although you may be rejected now, don’t let that stop you from pursuing your dreams. Timothy Ferriss (Author of The 4-Hour Workweek, The 4-hour Body, and The 4-hour Chef) was rejected over 20 times before his first book got published. Now all three of his books are national top-sellers and two of them are New York Times bestsellers.
If you’re doing what you love, like pursuing the arts, then you will probably be rejected a lot. If you aren’t rejected a lot, then you aren’t going out to get enough to show people your work. The same is true with dating; you will probably get rejected. But if you stop after one rejection or let it get you down, you won’t find anybody to be with.
Instead, opt to accept your failures and rejections. When someone rejects you, realize that there are many other people out there. When a gallery rejects your work, realize that there are many other galleries. When you see a failure, congratulate yourself for trying. You’ve gone out and done something.
When you cease to fail, you have truly failed. You have given up and you cannot succeed without first overcoming the stigma of failure. Make the move to fail more in your life, and through it, to find the success that you dream of! If that made sense to you whatsoever, apply it to your life and have a wonderful night.